Making Your Trip Romantic

Making Your Trip Romantic

Just by virtue of the destination and the purpose, some trips are romantic. For example, booking a flight to Tahiti with your spouse to renew your vows is already romantic. There are times, however, when you may want to plan a seven-day getaway that may not be romantic to you but will sweep your sweetheart off their feet. And then there are those trips with the whole family. Wouldn’t it be nice to steal some time away and experience a few romantic moments, even if the kids and in-laws are on the trip?

 Romantic Trips for the Two of You

• Emphasize Each Other. What I mean by that is to focus on each other and what you enjoy. For some, that might mean spending time at a beach re For others, snow skiing would be their preference. A couple that I was working with recently is planning a hunting honeymoon in hopes of bagging some big game.

• Plan Romantic Experiences. Find out what your love thinks is romantic by asking questions. For example, would a moonlight cruise or fly fishing be their choice of a romantic activity? Maybe learning to tango or salsa would be a fun and romantic experience. Talk about it and make sure that the activities or excursions are what you each agree would be romantic to you.

• Go to a Romantic Destination. Choosing the right destination is the most essential part of planning your getaway. The Caribbean, Hawaii, Costa Rica, Venice, Paris, Wyoming, etc., all offer their own ambiance. But, again, it should be a destination that fits you and your idea of romance.

• Choose Romantic Lodging. A quaint bed and breakfast, a thatched roof bungalow, or maybe even a room in a castle could be options for you.

• Express Your Love. This could be writing a poem to your spouse or spreading rose petals on the bed. It might be a private candlelight dinner on the beach or by the lake.

• Combine pleasure with business. If you are joining your spouse on a work-related trip, there can still be time for romance. For example, while the working spouse is busy with meetings or conferences, the other spouse could plan the evening or day-off activities.

Romance on a Family Vacation

• Take a Cruise Vacation. Most cruise lines offer ships that have separate activities planned for the children. Usually, “kid-free” locations are on board, so including some couple’s time is not difficult.

• Stay in a house or condo. In this home-type atmosphere, couples can have their own private room, which wouldn’t always be possible in a hotel or family room-type lodging.

• Take advantage of “kids clubs” or babysitting services. Some resorts and hotels offer activities for the older kids and babysitting for the younger ones. Choose one of these and enjoy some couple-alone time.

Make it Memorable!

• Go first class. If this trip is to mark or celebrate a special anniversary or another once-in-a-lifetime occasion, splurge! Try upgrading your room. Stay at a resort where you have your own butler. Check out what is included in the honeymoon package. Buy the jewelry that will remind you of the trip for years to come.

• Ask the Concierge or Staff. The hotel staff will have suggestions for your stay since they hear what other guests have enjoyed and are aware of the local venues and services. Often they will help you with executing your romantic gestures and plans.

• Tame the Technology. A romantic dinner is not one in which the two of you are on your cell phones! Only check phones or emails at certain times and keep the rest of the time technology-free! Make each other and your relationship the priority.

• Do something different. Try something that you would likely never do at home. Doing something new together, like a cooking class or trying out a sport that’s new for you, will build experiential intimacy.

• Enjoy yourselves – no matter what! There may be lost luggage, flight delays, or other circumstances you hadn’t counted on, but don’t let these unplanned occurrences dampen your fun. Having fun together is the purpose of the trip, so find the humor and be flexible. You will have stories to tell for years to come.

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• How can we improve communication in our relationship?

  Improving communication starts with active listening. Make sure to give your partner your full attention when they’re speaking. Avoid interrupting and show empathy towards their feelings. Regularly check in with each other about your needs and feelings, and set aside time for meaningful conversations without distractions.

• What should we do if we have different interests?

  It’s natural for couples to have different interests. Embrace your individuality while finding common activities you both enjoy. Respect and support each other’s hobbies and passions. You can also try introducing each other to your interests and see if there are new things you might both enjoy together.

• How can we keep the romance alive after many years together?

  Keeping the romance alive requires effort from both partners. Plan regular date nights, surprise each other with thoughtful gestures, and maintain physical affection. Communication is key—express your love and appreciation for each other frequently. Also, make time for new experiences and adventures together to keep the relationship exciting.

• What is the best way to handle disagreements and conflicts?

  Handling disagreements requires calm and respectful communication. Focus on the issue at hand without resorting to personal attacks. Use “I” statements to express your feelings and needs without blaming your partner. Find a compromise or solution that works for both of you, and don’t be afraid to seek help from a therapist if needed.

• How can we build trust in our relationship?

  Building trust takes time and consistency. Be honest and transparent with each other, and follow through on your commitments. Show reliability and dependability in both big and small matters. Address any breaches of trust openly and work together to rebuild it. Trust is reinforced through consistent actions and open communication.