Success: Living a Balanced Life

Living a Balanced Life of Love Has Its Rewards.

Success is a lifelong journey without a finite destination. It begins with a choice,
commitment, focus and relentless dedication. ~ Todd Hicks, LoveRecon

What is your definition of success? Often we think of success in terms of wealth and possessions. Some of us think of prominence and influence, of reaching the top of our profession. Some envision a life rich in family and friends, full of healthy and rewarding relationships. Achieving optimal health and fitness is the dream of many. A deep spiritual life for some is the goal. What about you? What comes to mind when you hear the word “success?”

Actually, to achieve one of these measures of success while failing at the rest would lead to a miserable experience. As Jesus of Nazareth said, “What does it profit a man to gain the world if he loses his soul?” What good is reaching the top if there is no one there to share the achievement with you? If the success costs you your health, was it really worth it?

Most of us want it all! Is that possible? Yes, depending upon your definition of what it means to succeed in each area. The key to experiencing a measure of success in all of these areas is learning to balance them and create a harmony between them in your life. You will never give equal attention and energy to all of them at the same time, but in different seasons of your life and marriage, you will give more to some than to others.

It is our belief in the LoveRecon that making your spiritual life your priority will enable you to have the balance, harmony and success that you desire in all areas.

Each of you should have a sheet of paper and a pen. On the sheet of paper, rate yourself in each of the following areas on a scale of 1-10, with 10 as the highest and 1 as the lowest.

• Finances
• Career
• Family Life
• Health
• Spiritual Life / God
• Friends/Social Life

Now choose 3 areas you would like to focus on in this season and circle them (They may not be your lowest scores. They could even be your highest scores. The key is “this season.”)

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A: Share with B your ratings and the 3 areas you want to focus on.

B: “What can I do to help you achieve success in your three top areas?”

A: “You can help me achieve success by…”

B: Share with A your ratings and the 3 areas you want to focus on.

A: “What can I do to help you achieve success in your three top areas?”

B: “You can help me achieve success by…”

End with a hug, a kiss and a wish or prayer for your mate!

• How can we improve communication in our relationship?

  Improving communication starts with active listening. Make sure to give your partner your full attention when they’re speaking. Avoid interrupting and show empathy towards their feelings. Regularly check in with each other about your needs and feelings, and set aside time for meaningful conversations without distractions.

• What should we do if we have different interests?

  It’s natural for couples to have different interests. Embrace your individuality while finding common activities you both enjoy. Respect and support each other’s hobbies and passions. You can also try introducing each other to your interests and see if there are new things you might both enjoy together.

• How can we keep the romance alive after many years together?

  Keeping the romance alive requires effort from both partners. Plan regular date nights, surprise each other with thoughtful gestures, and maintain physical affection. Communication is key—express your love and appreciation for each other frequently. Also, make time for new experiences and adventures together to keep the relationship exciting.

• What is the best way to handle disagreements and conflicts?

  Handling disagreements requires calm and respectful communication. Focus on the issue at hand without resorting to personal attacks. Use “I” statements to express your feelings and needs without blaming your partner. Find a compromise or solution that works for both of you, and don’t be afraid to seek help from a therapist if needed.

• How can we build trust in our relationship?

  Building trust takes time and consistency. Be honest and transparent with each other, and follow through on your commitments. Show reliability and dependability in both big and small matters. Address any breaches of trust openly and work together to rebuild it. Trust is reinforced through consistent actions and open communication.