Honoring Your Man On Father’s Day/Man’s Day
Happy Spouse – Happy House
No doubt you have heard the saying, “Happy wife – happy life!” but it is not just a well-loved wife that makes a fulfilling home life. A happy man-of-the-house is also an essential component of a harmonious home. “Happy spouse-happy house” is a way of including both of you in the equation. In fact, I believe that not just fathers but all worthy men should be honored, and therefore encourage you to think of it as not just Father’s Day, but Man’s Day as well. Why is honoring your man, whether he is a father or not, a good thing to do?
- Honoring them is sorely needed in a society that bashes men and portrays them as beer-guzzling, gas-passing idiots. So, what if you think he’s not that great in the husband or father department? (Be open and non-defensive to this following statement.) It could be that your attitude is part of the problem. (Just consider it!) To “appreciate” means to “rise in value.”
- Appreciating your man will encourage him to try even harder and become the man you honor him for being.
- Father’s Day is a chance to honor the man who has invested in your family by giving of himself, his time, and his energy.
- As a wife, you are most likely the one who sets the tone in the home, so creating an environment where everyone is respected and appreciated is a good example to children and others.
- Any opportunity to build up your spouse and pour into your marriage is a good investment.
- He needs pampering, even if he doesn’t admit it or know it yet!
Ways to Pamper Him
Don’t feel pressured. The day doesn’t have to be perfect, so don’t fall into the trap of creating a flawless experience for him. Instead, relax the schedule and be flexible. Don’t feel you have to do everything you may have planned. Rather, stay in the moment and enjoy each other!
Feed him. Make sure that you feed him well. Begin by making him a really good breakfast. Cater it to his preferences – granola, pancakes, or the full meal deal with bacon, eggs, biscuits, and gravy. Include his favorite coffee blend. Next, create a lunch or dinner meal that he loves – whether you prepare it at home, take him to his favorite restaurant, or try a new burger place or something fun.
Make him a sweet treat. Staying with the food ideas, what is his favorite treat that is not often around the house? Make it or buy it from the bakery or restaurant that excels in making it.
Make it “family time.” This may be contrary to the popular thought, “Let him watch the game, and everyone else should leave to give him space.” Years from now, he probably won’t remember the game, but he will remember the experiences he shared with his family. Suggestion: Shoot a video with you, or you and the kids, answering a brief questionnaire about him. The questions could be about his favorite thing to do, what he likes to eat, who his heroes are, etc. The final question could center on what they (you) love about him. You could film yourself telling him why he is a great man (father) and what he had done that year that proves it.
Center on him. Although the previous point emphasizes family time, make sure that whatever you do on Father’s Day is something that your guy will enjoy and want to do. If you’re not planning a surprise activity for him, ask him where he would like to go and what he would like to do. Whatever he says, go with it! You may at the least enjoy watching him enjoy it, even if you don’t.
Give him a gift just from you. Make it personal and something that isn’t just about opening a present, and then you’re done. What is an experience that he would enjoy with you? A bottle of massage oil and a massage(s) from you? Hiking boots for your outings together? This isn’t about the kids; it’s about you and him.
Father’s Day/Man’s Day is the perfect opportunity to celebrate the man in your life. Don’t miss the opportunity to invest in him and your relationship with him.
If your relationship is too broken for you to be able to honor him, then consider attending a Love Recon marriage retreat or engaging a Recon Relationship Coach. We can help. It’s what we do!