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August 15, 2023

How Tough Times Can Build Your Relationship

Top 10 Issues That Couples Disagree About

While every couple is unique and may have their own specific areas of disagreement, there are some common issues that couples often find themselves disagreeing about. Here are ten common topics that couples may struggle to find common ground on:


  1. Finances: Money is a frequent source of disagreement in relationships. Couples may have different spending habits, financialLove Recon Disrespecting Your Husband Without Realizing It body priorities, or approaches to budgeting. Disagreements can arise over saving, investments, debt, or how to handle joint finances.


  1. Communication and use of technology: Communication styles and needs can vary between partners, leading to disagreements. Differences in how to express emotions, handle conflicts, or share information can cause misunderstandings and frustrations.


  1. Household responsibilities: Dividing household chores and responsibilities can be a point of contention. Disagreements may arise over who does what, how often, and to what standard. Different expectations or a perceived imbalance can lead to conflicts.


  1. Parenting and family dynamics: Couples may have different parenting styles, values, or approaches to discipline. Disagreements can also occur regarding extended family involvement, such as how much time to spend with in-laws or how to handle family events.


  1. Intimacy and sex: Disagreements about intimacy can stem from differences in desires, frequency, or preferences. Miscommunication or unmet needs in this area can cause tension and emotional distance.


  1. Career and work-life balance: Couples may have different priorities when it comes to their careers and how they balance work and personal life. Disagreements can arise regarding job changes, promotions, relocation, or the amount of time spent at work versus quality time spent together.


  1. Household organization and cleanliness: Different preferences for cleanliness and organization can lead to disagreements. Couples may have different levels of tidiness, organization methods, or expectations regarding household chores, leading to conflicts over cleanliness and clutter.


  1. Leisure activities and hobbies: Couples may have differing interests and preferences when it comes to leisure activities and hobbies. Disagreements can arise over how to spend free time, how much time is dedicated to individual hobbies versus shared activities, or even differing opinions on what constitutes a fun or fulfilling activity.


  1. Plans and goals: Couples may have different visions for the future, which can lead to disagreements. Differences in goals for career advancement, where to live, starting a family, or financial planning can create tension if not addressed and aligned.


  1. Use of technology: The amount of time spent on cell phones and websites can create disconnect, suspicion, and resentment. Agreed upon boundaries and cultivation of other habits and interaction are needed to achieve a healthy balance in the use of technology.


Remember, the key to resolving these disagreements is open and respectful communication, compromise, and understanding. It’s important to approach these issues as a team, working together to find solutions that meet both partners’ needs and maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship. Love Recon can help. It’s what we do!


If you want to know more about how we can help you build a strong marriage, please get in touch with me at Cliff@LoveRecon.org or call 866-218-1716. You may also visit our website, www.LoveRecon.org, for testimonials and information.

About the author 

Cliff Poe

Cliff Poe is Founder and Lead Coach for Recon Coaching. He and his wife, Jeani, are Master Coaches and their passion is to help individuals and couples form healthy, lasting and satisfying relationships. Cliff has a M.Div. in pastoral counseling and ministry. He enjoys writing and coaching as well as his family which includes 2 adult kids and their spouses, 6 grandchildren and a fur family composed of a Golden Retriever and a Mackerel Tabby.

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