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August 2, 2023

What to Do If You're Not Attracted to Your Husband

What to Do If You’re Not Attracted to Your Husband


Finding yourself not attracted to your husband can be a challenging situation to navigate. It can be confusing, disheartening, and even guilt-inducing. However, it’s essential to address this issue openly and honestly to improve the quality of your relationship. Here are some steps you can take to work through this situation:


  1. Reflect on your feelings: Take the time to understand why you are feeling this way. Is it a recent development, or has it been an ongoingUnatracted to husband body issue? Consider whether there have been changes in your relationship dynamics, your husband’s behavior, or your own personal circumstances that may have influenced your attraction levels. Understanding the root cause can help you address the issue more effectively.


  1. Communicate openly: Honest and open communication is crucial in any relationship. Talk to your husband about how you feel, expressing your concerns, doubts, and emotions without blaming or criticizing him. Be open to hearing his perspective as well. A genuine conversation can help both of you gain insight into the situation and explore potential solutions together.


  1. Seek professional help: If you find it challenging to have these conversations or feel stuck in addressing the issue, consider seeking professional help. A marriage counselor, coach, or therapist can provide guidance, facilitate conversations, and offer strategies to reconnect on a deeper level. They can also help you explore any underlying issues contributing to your lack of attraction.


  1. Focus on emotional connection: Physical attraction can be influenced by emotional intimacy. Spend quality time together, engage in activities that you both enjoy, and make an effort to deepen your emotional connection. Open up about your thoughts and feelings, share your dreams and aspirations, and actively listen to your husband. Building emotional intimacy can enhance your overall bond and potentially reignite the physical attraction.


  1. Prioritize self-care: Sometimes, feeling unattracted to your partner can be a reflection of personal dissatisfaction or unhappiness. Prioritizing self-care can help you reconnect with yourself and rediscover your own desires and needs. Engage in activities that bring you joy, practice self-compassion, and explore personal growth opportunities. When you take care of yourself, you may find that your overall happiness and confidence increase, positively impacting your perception of your husband.


  1. Explore individual and shared interests: Rediscovering common interests or pursuing new hobbies can help reignite the spark between you and your husband. Engaging in activities together can create shared experiences, foster connection, and enhance attraction. Additionally, taking time for individual pursuits can help you maintain a sense of self, which can be attractive to both you and your partner.


  1. Experiment and explore: If you feel open to it, try experimenting with new experiences in your relationship. This may include exploring new sexual fantasies or being more adventurous together. Openly discussing your desires, boundaries, and needs can lead to a deeper understanding and potentially improve your physical connection. Caution: Avoid any expression or activity that is demeaning or degrading.


  1. Be patient and realistic: Rebuilding attraction takes time, effort, and patience. It’s important to set realistic expectations and understand that attraction can ebb and flow in any long-term relationship. By actively working on your relationship and staying committed to the process, you can increase the likelihood of reigniting the attraction between you and your husband.


Remember, every relationship is unique, and what works for one couple may not work for another. It’s essential to find the approach that resonates with you and your partner. By being proactive, open, and compassionate, you can navigate this challenging situation and work towards reestablishing a deep and fulfilling connection with your husband.


If you want to know more about how we can help you build a strong marriage, please get in touch with me at Cliff@LoveRecon.org or call 866-218-1716. You may also visit our website, www.LoveRecon.org, for testimonials and information.


About the author 

Cliff Poe

Cliff Poe is Founder and Lead Coach for Recon Coaching. He and his wife, Jeani, are Master Coaches and their passion is to help individuals and couples form healthy, lasting and satisfying relationships. Cliff has a M.Div. in pastoral counseling and ministry. He enjoys writing and coaching as well as his family which includes 2 adult kids and their spouses, 6 grandchildren and a fur family composed of a Golden Retriever and a Mackerel Tabby.

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