Do you know your mate’s journey and their story?

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October 27, 2020 Know-your-mate-featured
Do you know your mate’s journey and their story?

When we first got married, it was for lust and we lived on passion. But after 30 years of laughter and tears, surviving trauma and financial hurricanes, we truly know what love looks like in practice. We now know each other – heart, soul and mind. There’s nothing like it! ~ Angie & Tony Craft, LoveRecon

How well do you know your mate? What do you find fascinating about them and their story? What have they shared with you about their life before you entered it? Could you tell their story?

One of the benefits of having a “soulmate” is that you can be known by them and they by you. This can create an intimate “oneness” in your relationship. It is a freeing feeling to be fully known by your spouse and yet to be fully accepted and loved.

Do you remember the Journey Board that you drew on the first day of the LoveRecon? You actually drew a Relationship Journey Board in the LoveRecon and a Life Journey Board in the LifeRecon. There’s still one more that needs to be drawn by you… your mate’s!

Grab two sheets of paper – at least 8.5” X 11” and a couple of pens or pencils. Each of you take a sheet of paper and a pen or pencil and move to separate spots where you won’t be distracted by each other.

Once you have your spot, draw your mate’s Life and Relationship Journey on the sheet of paper. Include all the things that you know about them from their birth up until today.

You can do as you did in Love/LifeRecon and divide the page horizontally (landscape) with a line and put the positive experiences above the line and the difficult or sad ones below the line.

How does it feel to be known by your mate?

End with a hug, a kiss and a wish or prayer for your mate!

TODAY’S CHALLENGE: Do you remember your first date? Recreate it as closely as you can and recapture the experience! Or, what did you do when dating your mate that you no longer do? Go make that happen again, and just do it for no particular reason, “Just because I love you.”

  • How can we improve communication in our relationship?

    Improving communication starts with active listening. Make sure to give your partner your full attention when they’re speaking. Avoid interrupting and show empathy towards their feelings. Regularly check in with each other about your needs and feelings, and set aside time for meaningful conversations without distractions.

  • What should we do if we have different interests?

    It’s natural for couples to have different interests. Embrace your individuality while finding common activities you both enjoy. Respect and support each other’s hobbies and passions. You can also try introducing each other to your interests and see if there are new things you might both enjoy together.

  • How can we keep the romance alive after many years together?

    Keeping the romance alive requires effort from both partners. Plan regular date nights, surprise each other with thoughtful gestures, and maintain physical affection. Communication is key—express your love and appreciation for each other frequently. Also, make time for new experiences and adventures together to keep the relationship exciting.

  • What is the best way to handle disagreements and conflicts?

    Handling disagreements requires calm and respectful communication. Focus on the issue at hand without resorting to personal attacks. Use “I” statements to express your feelings and needs without blaming your partner. Find a compromise or solution that works for both of you, and don’t be afraid to seek help from a therapist if needed.

  • How can we build trust in our relationship?

    Building trust takes time and consistency. Be honest and transparent with each other, and follow through on your commitments. Show reliability and dependability in both big and small matters. Address any breaches of trust openly and work together to rebuild it. Trust is reinforced through consistent actions and open communication.