The 3 A’s – A Couple in Crisis
Most crisis couples that attend the Love Recon Intensive are dealing with one or more of the 3 A’s listed below. In this blog, we will address the definitions and symptoms of knowing when your relationship is nearing crisis status. In addition, what to do when your mate cannot or will not acknowledge when you nearing the dangerous make or break point. Furthermore, we will give you tools and resources for finding help and resolution to crisis issues in your relationship.
What are the 3 A’s ?
1. Affairs – Emotion or Physical
2. Addictions
3. Abusive Behaviors
Affairs: Emotional and Physical
Affairs or developing a emotional attachment outside of your relationship is a symptom of
disconnection that happened way before the affair began.
Most affairs start innocently and without consideration of how will harm the relationship.
Healing from an affair starts with a CONSCIOUS decision to invest in your relationship with time,
forgiveness, and action to repair the broken trust.
Step 1: DISCONNECT from all communication with the outside relationship
Step 2: Enlist help from a counselor, clergy, or experienced marriage program like Love Recon for a safe place work through your repair
Step 3: Be patient with the process
Addictions: All Types of Addictions
Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol, any obsessive behavior that jeopardizes your relationship and health could qualify as an addiction.
It’s very likely time to see help, if you have had your loved ones express concerns about your addiction and or you hide those behaviors in shame.
Mates can gain VALUABLE tools and need to see tools in a way to be SUPPORTIVE of their SPOUSE’S recovery journey.
Step 1: Find a resource, sponsor, and a support group for both the one in recovery and spouse
Step 2: Be open to exploring WHAT may be behind the addiction behaviors
Step 3: Be patient with the process
Abusive Behaviors
Abusive is defined as behaviors that alienate, defame, or harm a person’s body or soul.
It’s a common myth that only women can be victims of abuse in their relationship.
Another myth is that only individuals that witnessed abuse in their childhoods will accept abuse in their adult relationships. Many adults that tend to have high empathy fall prey to accepting abuse from their mates.
Finally, we have seen great success when mates address their anger issues and find healthy ways to communicate without abusive actions or words.
Step 1: Seek help if you are being harmed in your relationship
Step 2: Take action steps to work through anger issues and boundaries to make the relationship healthy again
Resource links
Love Recon Intensive Marriage Retreat offers a 4 day intensive program for couples in crisis and a 2 day Love -n- Life Enrichment program for all other couples. What’s more both programs create a safe environment for you and your mate to address crisis issues or everyday issues in your relationship.
A Powerful part of the program is that you will be attending with other couples dealing with similar issues. Whether attending the Love Recon Intensive dealing with the 3 A’s or attending Love & Life Enrichment dealing with every day relational issues. Either way you will be encouraged and learning the tools first hand required to heal and reconnect in a powerful way.
Addiction Resources
Locate your local AA, NA and Al-Anon groups:
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Porn Addiction Resource:
Email a Love Recon Coach/Director:
You can connect confidentially with a LoveRecon master certified Coach at
ReconCoaching@loverecon.org
Seek a board certified counselor in your area. You can search for counselors online in your area, or ask friends for references.